It's hard to believe when you've just broken up with the man of your dreams or that perfect woman that there will ever be any happiness in your life again. The hurt seems almost unbearable at times. So unbearable in fact that many people wonder if a person could die of a broken heart.
Well, I'm no doctor but I'm pretty sure that it's not possible (at least 99.5% of the time). As a matter of fact, I don't know of anyone who has ever died of heartache, and everyone I know has had at least one painful episode in the continuing saga of their lives, even myself. They all survived and believe it or not, are doing a lot better than they ever thought possible at the time.
So what exactly is the key to quickly mending a broken heart? Well, it's a miracle pill! That's right, a miracle pill. And what it does is release certain hormones in your brain that control the feeling of emotional pain. So are you buying all this? Because if you are, you're more desperate for help than I thought. And if this is the case, you probably won't like what I have to say. But sometimes truth hurts so here it is: there is no quick fix for a broken heart! But there are things that can help you through on your way to recovery, and these are time, family, friends, and above all Jesus (and a little bit of chocolate won't hurt either).
1. Time-Haven't you ever heard the saying, "Time heals all wounds"? Well believe it or not, it's true. Time can heal scabs, insults, rejections, and yes, even heartaches. Give yourself time and the pain will lessen. With each passing day, you will feel less hopeless and more positive about the future. Trust me, I've been there.
2. Family-The family that God has given you is such a blessing (and to some people, a blessing in disguise). They are always there by your side and when someone hurts you, that person is undoubtedly the enemy! It's great even when you know it's your fault because in your family's eyes, it will always be the fault of "The Other". You won't find that kind of support from anyone else, even your friends, because friends tend to see things objectively (who's side are they on, anyway!) whereas your close family loves you so much they can't seem to see anything that you could have done wrong. Because of this, they are always there to comfort you. Sometimes even when you wish they weren't.
3. Friends-A good friend is an absolute great asset to have, especially when times are rough. They can make you laugh and forget even for a moment the hurt your feeling, even if you feel like wallowing in self-pity. God has given you friends as a gift for this very purpose-to make you feel like you do belong, that you are needed. So that hopeless feeling in the pit of your being telling you to just sit there and rot in your anguish doesn't feel so physically over-whelming. You find solace and humor in your friends that soon turns into a band-aid for your now just slightly torn heart.
4. Jesus-Above all else, the one thing that gets you past all the pain that you are experiencing from a broken heart is prayer. Jesus is always there even if you don't have any family or friends for comfort. Jesus IS your family and He IS your friend. He is your comfort in times of trouble and he is always there for you no matter what. Continual prayer to Him to guide you through this time of need will definitely strengthen you, not only emotionally, but spiritually. With continual prayer for strength and hope, you also strengthen your relationship with God. And in turn, with a stronger relationship with God comes a more peaceful frame of mind. The heartache will soon wither away into a glorious new day of hope and endless possibilities.
Sometimes you will feel the need to just curl up in a warm blanket, with a gallon of Rocky Road ice cream, in front of a sad love story so that you can just wallow in sadness for a night. But you will once again have to join the real world, and when you, do the God-given resources are there for you to use when you need them.
So when you are feeling as if your broken heart is overwhelming your sense of rationality, look to the almost always over-looked resources that God has given you. "He gave his only begotten Son that we may be saved." You were not only saved spiritually but in all other senses of the word as well. God gave you Jesus so that He could carry your burden for you and be there for you when you needed Him to be. Treasure that very precious gift of love, along with the gifts of family, and friends and all will be all right again in due time... you'll see.
Copyright © Bianca Buenaventura.
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